Sending That First Message

We have put together a guide to help you with sending that first message to someone who has caught your eye. Here at Single50s.co.uk we feel the best way to break the ice, is to use your CHARMS...

• Confident

  Online dating can be a little daunting but it is important to be confident in yourself. Concentrate on your positive points and what you have to offer, after all confidence is one of the most attractive qualities.

  Honest

  Honesty is always the best policy. A dishonest start to a relationship can only go downhill. You are looking for somebody to love you for you and being totally honest is the only way to find them. After all isn't honestly what you are looking for too?

  Appealing

  This is your chance to engage with another member, so make the most of it and get their attention. Compliments are always a good place to start but also make your message interesting and individual so that it stands out from the rest.

  Relaxed

  It is important to keep the tone of your messages light and relaxed. Just as on a first date for example, being overbearing would put your date off straight away - it is no different online. Avoid bombarding someone with messages before they have replied.

  Make the first move

  Don't be afraid to initiate contact with someone by sending them a message. Shyness could result in missing out on something really great. When you look at it like that, you've nothing to lose by making the first move - in fact it's more of a risk not to!

  Similarities

  Common interests are the best way to break the ice. Before you send a message, read their profile and find something that you have in common. This will be a fantastic conversation starter and show that you have made the effort to find out about them.